Why Was I Appalled?

Hello my darlings!
Another post just for the ladies. (Am I being partial and reaching out to more of a female audience with this blog?) If I am, I apologise guys.

Anyway. Something happened to me a few days ago. And today I was prompted from within to share the experience.

I was just there on my own, tweeting about my King when this guy sent me a direct message. We spoke for a while, a regular conversation really. We spoke about God too for a bit, no problem there.
And thennnnn. Thennnn. Then he made a comment.

*wait for it*

*drumrolls, please*


I think his actual words were “your avatar is sexy”
But yes, you get my point? (I hope)

Was that what you were expecting? I hope you aren’t disappointed anyway. (After all the “efizzy” and all)
I just need you guys to understand, the way it affected me.

Now. The old me would accept it as a compliment. I would be thrilled, honestly. HE CALLED ME SEXY. I’m winning!

Was that my reaction? No. It was the opposite. I was appalled. Genuinely appalled.

Why was I appalled?

That’s the point of this post. Why was I appalled? (Haha I just figured this works as the title of the post as well)

As I’m writing this post, I’m also asking the Holy Spirit this question.
Why was I appalled?

I was appalled because I felt downgraded. I felt put down. I mean, I am a Proverbs 31 woman in progress. I want to be seen as that. And not just “sexy” I am more than my outward beauty! Look at me as the woman of God that I am.
Also, and most importantly – I felt like I had sinned. I put this picture up and even though it was only a selfie, it was provocative enough to cause him to think it was sexy.
And when he said this picture was sexy, he could have been thinking lustful thoughts. That really is the prerogative behind a hot/ sexy comment.
We all know that thinking lustful thoughts is a sin.

But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. (‭Matthew‬ ‭5‬:‭28‬ NIV)

Not just that, but I had caused him to sin with that picture. Which in itself is a sin.

It is better not to eat meat or drink wine or to do anything else that will cause your brother or sister to fall. (‭Romans‬ ‭14‬:‭21‬ NIV)

And so my feeling appalled was because of the Holy Spirit’s conviction on what I had done. It was a lesson, and I had to learn from it. Nobody told me to delete the picture.

I know you may be thinking “it’s never that deep boo” and “it’s really never that serious.” But it is. It really is.
I acknowledge that sometimes people say sexy, just for the sake of it. Without actually thinking lustful thoughts.

I also acknowledge that a guy can look at a fully covered girl, and still have lustful thoughts.
A girl can be fully clothed decently from head to toe, and a guy will still find it sexy. This is true. And this is why guys need to learn self restraint.
All I’m trying to say is you do your part and make sure that as the daughter of God you are, you do not contribute to this in anyway.

The lesson in this –
It has become such a norm to drop “thirst traps” all over social media. Fashionable is beginning to mean lesser and lesser clothes.
You are a daughter of the Most High. And so, you act like one.
Be careful that you do not dress in such a way that will cause a brother to sin or lust over you.
It might not even be in your dressing, you might be all covered up.
It can also be in that sexy pout in a picture. (The picture in question, I was all covered up)

Let the Holy Spirit direct you in choosing the clothes that you wear everyday.
Keep asking yourself, will Jesus be pleased by what I’m wearing? Will Jesus be pleased by the picture I’m putting up on Instagram?

And never forget the child of who you are. You are the daughter of a King.

I really pray the Holy Spirit communicates this message clearly through me. And that you; my darling, learn from it. In Jesus Name, Amen.